Thank you for this! It often feels like we are presented with some kind of false dichotomy wherein we may choose to fly high our pink and blue freak flag, embracing life on the fringe and living as in-yo-face gender warriors, OR we can do our best to ‘give in’ to the cultural standards of what ‘woman’ is and strive to create the best illusion that we can. Why can’t we want both? Why can’t we be champions of transness and still want to be as traditionally (cis-ly) beautiful as we are capable of being?